Gay guy turns straight

Joseph Nicolosi, a psychologist in Encino, Calif., says he can rid adults, teens, and even children of homosexuality. For nearly 30 years, he has offered a "psychodynamic" form of reparative therapy for people — mostly men — seeking to change their sexual orientation. A stroke changed a 53 year old male from gay to straight. Referenced in this blog post: May 9 -- Can gay men and women become heterosexual?

can a woman turn a gay man straight

A controversial new study says yes — if they really want to. Critics, though, say the study's subjects may be deluding themselves and that the subject group was scientifically invalid because many of them were referred by anti-gay religious groups. Have you ever slept with a straight guy? That's the question Australian news show You Can't Ask That posed to gay men in its latest expose.

In an effort to present both sides of the gay conversion debate, IBT invited a man whose sexuality changed through therapy to tell his story. Long-suffering Spectator readers deserve a seasonal break from yet another Remoaner diatribe from me. Instead, I turn to sex. There is little time left for me to write about sex as the thoughts of a septuagenarian on this subject I turn 70 this year may soon meet only a shudder.

But I have a theory which I have the audacity to think important. My firm belief is that in trying to categorise sex, sexuality and — yes — even gender, the late 19th, 20th and early 21st centuries have taken the medical and social sciences down a massive blind alley. No such categories exist. Being from a kindly, liberal family, I was taught that sympathy, understanding and tolerance were called for, and these things were not a moral question and not a matter for the police.

Growing up in the s, I had no idea how recently this prism had been applied to sexuality, splitting white sunlight into colour-bands; or that a century beforehand these rigid categories had not existed. But before the Victorians, sex was described more by verbs than nouns — as something people did rather than were — and sexual leanings, mainstream as well as minority, were appetites to which almost anyone might on occasion be prey.

Those earlier ages had been vicious in their approach to morally disapproved behaviour but relaxed in their understanding that many, perhaps most, could feel the pull. Then came an age in which the moral disapproval and legal sanctions were to fade — a good thing — but paddocks were to be constructed with pseudo-scientific names; and we were all to be badged, placed in one paddock or another, and later offered assistance and counselling if we wished to change paddock.

To my surprise on re-reading , the first and still the most important such survey — undertaken in America by Alfred Kinsey and colleagues in the midth century — was the most enlightened. Kinsey distrusted brutal categorisation but, wishing to count, constructed what came close to a sliding scale containing seven gradations between exclusive heterosexuality and exclusive homosexuality. He found that almost half his male interviewees had reacted sexually to both genders; more than a third had had a homosexual encounter; and more than one in ten reported roughly equally strong sexual responses to both men and women.

The important thing to note about this apparent variance, though, is that it may be more apparent than real, arising from the available menu of words offered to people. Words create categories. Some of the men I slept with have gone straight despite a strong cultural barrier to a gay man doing this. Indeed, hordes are: happy in real marriages with wives and children.

Straight men are equally reluctant to admit the converse. Secondly, if sexuality really is modifiable for some, how long before someone suggests cognitive behavioural therapy minus or even plus the Hallelujahs? Damn the Hallelujahs. The coming age may extend that from sexuality to gender. Dare to believe that there are no categories, no badges, and no walls. Share Matthew Parris The fact no one likes to admit: many gay men could just have easily been straight.

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